TWINS?

If you read my last post you heard that we went to visit Trevor’s mom on Saturday. I took a picture of Abel sitting on her couch like I had done when Kaden was itty bitty. (I actually posted it with the other photos on the last post) When I got home I dug out the picture of Kaden and compared the two and WOW. Over the last 5 weeks I have done this with a few different photos and I just can NOT believe how much they look alike!! Check it out. :P

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Can you tell the difference?? Kaden- Left, Abel- Right.

And just for a few more comparisons..

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Kaden- Left at 1 month and Abel- Right at 1 month. When I showed the photo of Kaden to Trevor the other day I didn’t tell him it as Kaden. He looked at it and noticed the date.. He said “01-12-13? No.. That’s wrong”.. HAHA He didn’t even clue in that it was Kaden.. They look THAT much a like.

And one more just hours old..

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This was taken in the hospital. This time Abel is on the left and Kaden on the right. My babies. I can’t wait to see if they continue to look alike as they get bigger. Either way they are just both precious. Love my boys. <3

 

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Slave to Facebook.

The last 4 days have been beautiful ones. I am finally starting to think that maybe there is a possibility that we will get a summer this year. With the sun shining this weekend, I decided that it would be a perfect time to take a break. From SOCIAL MEDIA. (Apparently that doesn’t mean my blog as it is still Sunday and I am typing away.) Anyway, I thought it would be a great time to just take a step back from social media, (mostly Facebook) and really enjoy some family time. It is 10:24am on Sunday and Kaden, Abel, Trevor and even Memphis are all napping so I decided to sit down, enjoy a cup of coffee and use this time that I would normally use to mindlessly scroll my news feed, to blog about how AWESOME it feels to not be a slave to Facebook for a day and still going strong. :P

I feel like so much of my days are taken up by Facebook. Over the last few week I have been noticing it more than usual. When it’s only 11am and your phone is already at 28%, you know that it is time to unplug. Now it is true that I have been using Facebook lately more as a way to talk with other moms in various mom groups to get advice about challenges that I have been facing with to adjusting having two under two, and that takes up a lot of time/battery power, and I have been using it a lot more when I am feeding Abel or when I am up with him in the middle of the night. It’s just getting to the point though, where my phone might as well be glued to my hand because it feels like I am constantly looking at it. So much so, that I can feel the anxiety due to feeling like I am truly addicted, when the first thing I do after we FINALLY get everyone into the car and I get my seat belt on, is check Facebook. It is literally being checked after everything I do, or even while I am doing it, and it makes me feel like a slave to it. And guess what? The news feed rarely even changes, which makes me feel even worse because I’m not even getting anything new out of it.. It is just pure habit. I Am A Slave To Facebook.

With all of that being said, I have got to say that it has made me feel so free being away from it all day yesterday and still today. I am thinking about making this a weekly thing where I will just completely unplug for the weekend from all things social media. (Except for my blog of course) and just really enjoy life free from distractions. Does anyone else do this? If not I really encourage you to do so. In fact, lets make it a challenge. Who wants to join me? I challenge anyone that is reading this and guilty of being a constant day in and day out, mindless Facebook news feed scroller (word press is telling me that “scroller” isn’t a word. :S ?) to unplug for a weekend and see how much better it makes you feel. I dare you! And tell me about it.

I really feel like I have been enjoying life so much more over the last 24+ hours and I don’t mean to be dramatic but it’s really true. I almost feel like unplugging has taken a huge weight off of my shoulders. It’s almost as if when I allow myself to be a slave to Facebook, even though I don’t realize it, my next “fix” or  glance at my news feed is always in the back of my mind. It’s all consuming and I can really feel the weight of that, or lack of weight I guess, when I step away. Is it possible that Facebook is a REAL addiction for people?

I have been able to enjoy this weekend so much.

Yesterday morning our family went for a nice long walk. And I am talking birds still chirping and singing their morning tune kind of morning. That is so not us. It was awesome though. When we set out we could still feel the chill of the morning but the warmth of the sun got hotter and hotter as we walked and it was just perfect.

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After that we came back home for lunch and Kaden had a nap and then we took the boys to a local vegetable stand where they have farm animals and Kaden had a blast while Abel chilled out in the Ergo.

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After that we visited the boys Grammy (Trevor’s mom) and Kaden had so much fun running around outside in her huge back yard.

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The day just seemed so stress free and relaxed and because the amount of time I spend on Facebook lately has been weighing on my mind I really think that yesterday was the kind of day I needed. Who knows, I might even decide to delete Facebook all together. (Ok, maybe that is a bit to much all at once. haha)

The sun is shining again today and I can’t wait to see what it holds. I can’t wait to spend time with my beautiful family, no Facebook strings attached. <3

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My name is Kelsey and I am a MOMBIE!

Seriously. I forgot what it was like to have a newborn. And this time around I have a toddler too. I am a walking zombie most of the time lately. No rest for the wicked. Last night I was so tired that I asked Trevor to leave Abel in his swing until he came to bed (he usually stays up a bit later) because I was going to have a nap on my side. Haha. Yep, that was all I wanted. I’ve been sleeping with Abel on me for the passed two and a half weeks and all I wanted was to be able to roll over onto my side to sleep. It was amazing. Almost too good. Trevor tried to bring Abel in to eat around 1am and I pretty much refused to feed him so he had to do it. I feel bad for that this mornng but it’s like it wasn’t even me refusing. I couldn’t control it. It was the zombie in me.

I am starting today out feeling a little bit rested now but it’s only 7:11am. We will see. We have to get Abel used to his bassinet. This Mombie (mom slash zombie) needs her sleep!!!

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MamaMarney

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Last night before bed.

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Had to share this one from yesterday too. He loves his doggy.  :)

Tomorrow is a new day.

Tomorrow is a new day.. Well in this case, today is a new day, but those words were DEFINITELY my words yesterday.. “Tomorrow is a new day.” It was soo crazy yesterday trying to juggle both boys. Kaden decided that he wanted to run the roost and he was a little terror. lol I didn’t know how I was going to get through the day and posted on facebook that “Today is one of those days that I was warned about”. A while after I posted that status, a friend shared this on my time line.. Image

.. It brought tears to my eyes. It is so true and I began to realize that it might be a bad day, but tomorrow was a new day and things could start fresh and I just had to laugh off the hard times and enjoy my family and my boys in all of its pandemonium. I must have sent some good vibes out there because today was a great day spent with my boys filled with lots of love and cuddles.

I woke up bright and early this morning and decided that since Trevor and Abel were still sleeping that I would take Kaden and go for a walk. It was cool outside and so quiet. It was the most exercise I have had in months and months but it was awesome. We saw lots of birds, and even a ground hog and it was so nice to just get that one on one time with Kaden AND to also have the peace and quiet in the early morning hours.

 

 

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Kaden instantly started laughing and giggling as soon as that stroller started moving and just before we returned back home a while later he was fast asleep. It was so nice and definitely a great way to start the day.

After getting to spend some quality time with Kaden this morning, I also got to get some extra cuddles from Abel this afternoon. He just loves being worn in the Moby wrap and he fell fast asleep.

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Then there is this moment that was just the best of all..
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Kaden sure does love his brother. This just melted my heart. .

Today I really realized that not everyday is going to be perfect but to always just stay positive. Yesterday was SOO crazy but today absolutely made up for it. It’s days like yesterday that make me appreciate days like today and for that I am truly grateful.

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MamaMarney

My growing family..(fourteen days in)

I’ve been pretty MIA for the last while. It wasn’t my intention but it seems the hours turn into days, turn into weeks, turn into months. We have had a very exciting year however, and over time with getting caught up again I will try to touch on lots of what has been up. But for the MAIN thing. BABY ABEL IS HERE!! We have had such a great 16 1/2 months with Kaden and we are so excited to be able to give him a baby brother. That’s not to say that the last 14 days have not been a challenge. It is one that I am definitely up for but I have a feeling there will be a lot of ups and downs. haha. :) It’s wild that no matter how much you talk to people and try to prepare yourself you just can’t prepare yourself until you are living it. I am sooo in love with my little family though. I can’t wait to dive right back into this blog and talk all about our little family of four. :) I am very out numbered now not just by 2 but now by 3 boys if i count Trevor, which I do. Time for myself if very limited and I have seriously tried to update here everyday for the last week but there just never seems to be time.

It is currently 7:53 in the morning. Abel is exactly 14 days old today and I just can not believe it. I find myself trying to soak much every second with him but I am also trying to do the same with Kaden. For me, there is a fine line between enjoying every little moment and watching them grow and learn, and breaking down crying because I feel like there is never enough time. I feel like trying to enjoy the time just reminds me that time is going by so fast. I don’t know if this is just me being extra emotional because I just has a baby or if that’s just a part of motherhood, or maybe even just a part of me but it is a struggle of mine that I am working on. I just love my babies to bits and wish there was more time in a day!!

Why is it that as we get older time goes by faster and faster?

Anyway I am off to hopefully enjoy a coffee before I have to tend to my mommy duties..:)

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Beautiful Fall

Oh dear. There just aren’t enough hours in a day. Or maybe that’s just an excuse? Maybe there are just enough hours in a day but I waste too many thinking about what I WANT to be doing and what I WANT to get done instead of just DOING IT! lol Yeah, I think that’s what it is. I would be rich if I had a nickel for every time I made a “to do” list and then didn’t look at it again. Haha And this, is my life. Hahaha. BUT, with all of that being said, I have been wanting to get a blog post up, so here it is! (finally) AND I am posting about something I have been wanting for do for awhile but have been to lazy and too much of a procrastinator to do. GO FOR A WALK AND ENJOY THE LEAVES! :) Yesterday Kaden, Memphis and I did just that. It was LOVELY. I have definitely been missing out. It’s amazing how fast the view outside changes from summer, to fall and then to winter. I mean it’s not winter yet BUT there are soo many trees that are bare here. Just a few weeks ago I remember sitting on my step and looking at a big tree in my backyard and thinking “Wow, the leaves are really starting to change.” Now? Well that tree has NO leaves at all. It was so pretty while it lasted but time just goes so fast. I am glad we got out for a walk yesterday, and although it was too cold to go today, I will definitely make sure that we get out at least a few times a week during the next few months. It is too beautiful to miss it and Kaden and Memphis enjoyed it so much! :)

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Ready to go!

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Played on his swing for a bit after our walk.

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He’s not sure what to think! :)

If it’s nice out tomorrow we might drive into town and go for a walk on the walking bridge. It’s sooo beautiful as it goes over the river.

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“For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Wow. Today is just one of those days. A day where I feel like I am being tested. A day where everything I do seems to be 10 times bigger than it is.  A day where there have already been severals times where I just wanted to sit down and cry. And have I mentioned that it is only 11am?

Why is it that, from the outside, a day can seem just like the last day, but a closer looks reveals that it is nothing like the last day at all. What is it that goes on between the night and the morning that makes us wake up in a state that we just seem to not be able to deal with the day? Or it is just me?

To be quite honest it doesn’t even seem like there are any huge “stressors” going on. Mainly I just feel in a funk. I even did yoga today and that didn’t even help.

I just needed to vent and this always seems to be the best place to do it. Quickly getting it out one key stroke after another helps me relax and just feel better about the things I face throughout the day.

Kaden is really starting to become mobile and he is into EVERYTHING. I love to watch him grow but I am quickly realizing that when he is a awake it is no longer a time to unload the dishwasher, do laundry, or even PEE for that matter. Nothing is safe.. He needs constant surveillance. haha.

Memphis is also driving me nuts today. I swear that dog can sniff out a bad day and she uses it against me and acts as needy and whiny as humanly, (Doggly?) possible. Someone needs more attention.

Anyway with all this venting it must be said that it is definitely time for some revamping. Tomorrow is the start of a new month and that is always a great time for change and organization. Right? So, starting tomorrow I will be walking more with Memphis, planning better meals, going swimming more with Kaden during the week (he loves it), doing yoga everyday, and reading my bible everyday.. I spend to much time thinking about ALL the things I want to do instead of just doing it and that is a HUGE thing that gets to me on days like this. It makes me sad that a little lack of motivation is holding me back from things that are important to me.

Enough said, and time to get prepared. :)

It’s that time again!!

YAY!! Trevor is on vacation again! Woo hoo. Another 9 days and I am so excited for it. I just love the feeling of having my family together and the weekends just don’t cut it. Although we had fun on our last vacation, this one will be even more fun because this is the one that we planned to do all of the traveling and exploring and stuff! We are going to go to the Zoo, the beach, the OCEAN (yay!). We’ll be visiting family and going out to eat at different places. Oh how I LOVE summer. Stay tuned for all of our adventures because I will be documenting it all here! :D

Oh and I also wanted to share some pictures that Trevor took the other day so I will this this post with some of them. He has been really interested in photography lately and he’s getting really good at it! :) Just keep in mind that I stole these ones from facebook so the quality isn’t as good as the originals. They were taken with a Canon Rebel XS DSLR and a EFS 55-250mm lens. :)

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LOVE the lip! lol (Not sure why this one posted so small)

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Looking like a little boy and not a baby anymore…

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Love him<3

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People Pleaser.

Although I wrote this as a facebook post to put on a “mom group” that I am a part of, I decided not to post it there and to instead post it on my blog. SO here it is:

 

This is not mom related but I feel like this group is so great for giving support. I had a really bad experience this morning. One that didn’t really seem bad until I got home and started thinking about it and now I can’t STOP thinking about it and wanted to vent. I had an eye doctors appointment this morning. While I was waiting to go in Trevor, Kaden and I went into the room with the glasses and I tried some on. I found a style that I have ALWAYS loved and wanted and I tried them on and didn’t quite like them on so I was disappointed. The woman in there immediately started hounding me with different ones and handing me pair after pair without giving me any opportunity to look for myself and pick what I WANTED. Eventually I just walked away and starting trying what I liked on. I told her a bit about what I wanted and tried some on again with her and she would tell me “too big” “too small” “oh these are nice” blah blah. Finally she helped me pick out two pairs that I liked and my coverage allowed me to get both. Before we left I found a pair that were similar to the ones I really liked in the beginning and always wanted. They were a little smaller and Trevor said that he liked them, and I really liked them too. I wanted his honest opinion. He said he liked the two that I picked out before the best but that he did like these ones too and reassured me that it was up to me. I asked the woman what she thought and she said the other ones would be better for wearing out and about and that I wouldn’t always want to wear these ones out as they were funkier and ultimately she said that I wouldn’t want a funkier pair to be my only pair of glasses. (Because they were more expensive, if I got them I would only be able to get one pair in order to stay within my coverage.) I reluctantly went with what she said and got the two that I had picked out before. Now that I am home I am really upset. I feel like I let her decide for me and I just went right along with it. What is wrong with me? I feel like I am too much of a people pleaser and I HATE it. I see what she’s saying about maybe not wanting a funky-ish pair for all the time, but I don’t even wear them in public other than work because they are only for reading and the computer. I am so mad at myself for letting someone that I don’t even know and will probably never see again outside of that place, convince me to buy something other than what I had originally wanted before I even went in. When it comes down to it she really doesn’t care what I buy..It’s just her job to help, (although I feel like she was a bit pushy right from the start). This ALSO happened the last time I got glasses so it bothers me more now.. Generally when it comes to everyday stuff I have lots of confidence so why when it comes to a decision like that did I let a complete stranger have such a huge influence on my decision ESPECIALLY when Trevor said they looked good. I just didn’t have the guts to go against what the professional thought?? I guess it really bothers me because I NEVER want my son to give up what he wants for someone else’s opinion and it scares me that people pleasing to this extent will rub off on him. His father is nothing like that and I wish I could be more like him. Sorry this is so long but I just had to vent because it bothers me so much. Do any of you ever feel like you put others opinions before yours?

Thoughts?? I am SO bummed out and disappointed in myself. I learned a huge life lesson today and I will work on this because it’s just NOT the person I want to be.